October 23, 2008

  • Did I Marry The Right Person?

    Amazingly, after so many years of being a dormant member, I am still receiving stuffs from SDU (that's the Single, Dumped or Undesirable club of Singapore's matchmaking group).  Probably too lazy to unsubscribe but sometimes when I go through some of my dormant accounts (where I have to thrash hundreds of junk mails but I happen to read this).  This one's very interesting; it's not even an invite to an event or talk or anything, just a reminder to the members.

    The topic is "Did I Marry The Right Person?" and it goes on a while talking about relationships, how people fall in love and it's not that hard, going thru the initial euphoria of love, yet after years, one's spouse's idiosyncrasies start driving one nuts instead of being cute.  There's a dramatic change from initial stage of love and much duller, even angry subsequent stage.  And at this point, the question is asked.

    The answer to this dilemma does not lie outside your marriage; not to say one could not marry a different person, and *TEMPORARILY* one would feel better, yet be in the same situation again.  And Kit, you better be listening to this.

    THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

    Love in marriage is indeed a 'decision'.. . *Not* just a feeling.  It ends with a saying that God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.  I think I'm stubborn that way.